Finally Revealing to Others our Decision to Adopt

It is always interesting to hear other peoples reactions when you tell them you are going to adopt. To be completely honest, our friends, work  and church family have been  so supportive and have been so excited for us. When it has come to family members … we have experienced a few that haven’t had the most encouraging things to say. We have experienced the “so why are you doing that?” type of tone or outright suggestions on how to get pregnant naturallyinstead, or the ” (us)we are having a baby” , “( them) YAAY!!” ” (us) through adoption” ” (them) Oh (tone drops completely)….well that’s nice…I will be praying for you” type of conversations, etc.

While at the same time there are those  family members and friends that are already planning the baby shower and the baby isn’t even here yet haha!

The reactions are not a downplay to anyone… its reality and something we know other friends that have adopted have gone through. Some people just don’t get it at first but they will come around. And if they don’t that’s on them because we are pursuing the path God has paved for us.

The journey of adoption always brings me to thoughts of the Bible and how Jesus was asked multiple times why he was talking to a particular person or inviting someone in that others cast away; believers have been adopted into the kingdom also when they give their life to God, etc. For Jason and I, this journey to adoption is more than just ” a thing to do” it is a calling. It is Gods plan and destiny for our lives and the way we are called to parent. If God would have lead us to the area of medicine to create another avenue for pregnancy then that is the way we would of gone but it wasn’t and we were okay with it. Even the many times we have been told, ” so many people adopt and then get pregnant, that will probably happen to you too”, its like if that’s Gods will then so be it but if not we are fine just with this path. When we give that answer back, it can still seem like a struggle for others to take in. When you step out on faith ( which within our personal testimony just within our marriage we have done multiple times) and you just do what God is calling you to do there is such a peace that comes from it that others may not understand and at the end of the day you have to surrender those people to God and KEEP moving in the direction God has destined you to go because if you divert from your path just because of the naysayers, you may just miss out on your greatest blessing. Over and over again we have seen Gods faithfulness when we have stepped out on faith and because he is the same God today as he was yesterday we know things will be okay 🙂

( check out James 1:27)