( This post is from my hubby’s heart. Be blessed)
When we first thought about adoption, we knew that it would be an option we would want to pursue. Especially because at our wedding, the pastor of the church I met my wife at said that my wife and I would have many children and not just biological children. I come from a big family where my mom is 1 of 4 and my grandmother is 1 of 16. So our family gatherings were very full of people, lots of people. I knew that I wanted to have at the least 3 kids, preferably 2 of the 3 being twins or having 2 sets of twins if possible (um yea I had goals) When the pastor stated this, it didn’t come to a shock to me. My wife worked at a boarding school where her students called me Poppa J (which in my opinion has a great sound to it)
We didn’t try to have kids right away, as I am sure everyone who is a newlywed is asked questions like: When are the kids coming?
I didn’t grow up with my father in my life, but if you ask him about that today he will tell all of these things he did but I don’t seem to remember, so it’s either I have amnesia or someone is just flat out lying. As I am giving that to God, growing up without a father leaves you to figure out a lot of life on your own. I am thankful for the men God has placed in my life that have made a positive impact in my life in helping to groom me into the person I am today. So thank you to DJ, Uncle Abe, Uncle Laniard and even my mentor now Tim.
Before the thought of being a father would scare me or be a thought that was too far to reach. Fear of having to instruct or lead a family. Trusting God and His will has helped me to face that fear. So the thought of adoption after I knew that I could be a father and do it with God’s leading was totally acceptable to me. I understood that this was God’s plan for us. Some may question don’t you want a child naturally? Why not try the different procedures and treatments that medicine offers? But, I answer with a simple its God’s plan. I believe that God sets a plan out for our lives and we can’t force His will for our comfort, we must allow things to happen in His time. Our decision is to adopt and we are more than happy with that decision. We have received some mixed feelings from people in our family and those we have chosen to tell. When you are following God’s plan, not everyone is going to be happy but I don’t expect those that don’t understand His will to understand. As long as my wife and I are doing what we have to do, that’s what matters most. Plus, either if our child comes from a natural conception or a process of paperwork and prayer, it’s still a wonderful thing to have a child and to raise that child in the likeness of a Godly standard.
Ashley Wilson 