In the previous post I gave a little fast forward to where things are now but of course there was a lot of meat to chew on and a lot of other battles to overcome.
Jason and I waited to tell our parents about the whole PCOS thing until we came to full terms and comfortability about it ourselves to handle whatever feelings and comments may come our way.
We told them all in our own way but it was hard because of course we know they desired to be grandparents at some point and we wanted that too but these are the cards we were dealt with so once again if God wanted us to carry a child at some point we knew it would happen. They all had different responses. Nothing harsh, just different ways of reacting and looking at the situation.
We didn’t feel the need to send a flag flying to all of our family members house saying “hey guess what?” like, there was just no need. We knew they would know eventually but the only people we felt needed a “formal” phone call on the matter was our parents.
(We would encourage couples to do what you feel is best in a situation like this. Only you and your spouse know whats best for you two but always make sure that you two are on the same page when it comes to telling personal situations like this to others even if it is your parents/family members. okay I’m off my soap box)
So after going through that we then had to deal with people coming up to us saying “When are the babies coming?” “Are you pregnant yet?” ” I can’t wait for you to have kids!” There was one lady in the mall that every time I would walk in the store it would be “are you pregnant yet? I’m going to ask you every time I see you until I see that belly”.
Ughhh ! It was enough to make you sick to your stomach. We had encountered those questions in the past but where before it was mere annoyance to give those comments any attention because we were focused on us rather than a baby, became heartbreaking because now this is the time that we actually wanted to be pregnant. I couldn’t be mad at other people because they ultimately didn’t know what was going on but I did vow to myself that I would NEVER ask a women a bunch of times “so when are the babies coming?” because they could be just like me…wondering the same thing..when are the babies coming?
The topic is more sensitive when your going through it. I can only imagine how stars like Khloe Kardashian or others in the lime light persay handle it when people always assume that well ….your a woman so just pop the babies out whenever you feel, when it can be harder to get pregnant than what many know. The crazy thing about PCOS too is that you could get pregnant with a baby and then try for your second one and have a hard time getting pregnant and wonder whats going on. A lot of women don’t know they have PCOS or the fact that many times it can be genetic. Crazy right?
This season just caused for more prayer and more community.
Ashley Wilson 