Opportunities started to avail itself through conversation with people at church, the gym, etc where pregnancy would come up and I just started opening up about PCOS and it was amazing how freeing that was! I started talking to people that either knew someone that had PCOS or just had regular issues getting pregnant and they would give tips and suggestions but most of all they gave my husband and I genuine support. ( ahhh deep breath) . It’s nothing like having authentic people around you to be real and truly there for you in the rough parts of life.
I opened up to some of my close girlfriends about it… ( okay I’m back on my soap box…a word to the friends as well..remember the friend opening up to you is pretty sensitive and vulnerable at this time and that is a big step to be opening up on this subject so please be careful of what you say at that time. Just saying. I’ve seen it happen before where someone says the wrong thing at the wrong time and then sparks fly so just thought I would drop some knowledge in that area of personal life sharing ) and they were supportive. But it was kind of hard to even tell them but afterwards I was glad that they knew why not to “baby question” either and know what was actually going on.
My biggest support came after I joined a “Jumpstart” program through PCOS Divas (check the website out for more info on that program) because after you complete the classes you get invited into a closed Facebook group just for the women who have PCOS and have gone through the jumpstart program. This is such a great support because we all know the different roller coaster of emotions we go through and the difficulties with other symptoms such as having a harder time to loose weight, managing sugars etc. You just need people around you sometimes that speak the same language and you may not have to say much but they know exactly what your feeling. The women there have encouraged me on my worst days and I appreciate them, many of whom I don’t know personally , yet we are still a support system for each other.
Those that know me know that I always contribute my faith in Christ to helping me and guiding me which is VERY true but I am so glad when he sends great people that are here in the flesh to surround you and support you through the valleys as well.
While going through this season, Jason and I had been praying about how God would want us to parent and we continued to grow this desire to adopt. When we got married we always said we wanted biological children and children that we would adopt. God had other plans (doesn’t he always 🙂 in his timing and designing of things but we became okay with that .
So our desire turned into our destiny when it came to parenting. We were called to love those that don’t have anyone to call mom and dad.
We desired. God confirmed it and That was all we needed to move forward.
Ashley Wilson 