Day: July 5, 2014

Opportunities started to avail itself through conversation with people at church, the gym, etc where pregnancy would come up and I just started opening up about PCOS and it was amazing how freeing that was! I started talking to people that either knew someone that had PCOS or just had  regular issues getting pregnant and they would give tips and suggestions but most of all they gave my husband and I genuine support. ( ahhh deep breath) . It’s nothing like having authentic people around you to be real and truly there for you in the rough parts of life.

I opened up to some of my close girlfriends about it… ( okay I’m back on my soap box…a word to the friends as well..remember the friend opening up to you is pretty sensitive and vulnerable at this time and that is a big step to be opening up on this subject so please be careful of what you say at that time.  Just saying. I’ve seen it happen before where someone says the wrong thing at the wrong time and then sparks fly so just thought I would drop some knowledge in that area of personal life sharing )  and they were supportive. But it was kind of hard to even tell them but afterwards I was glad that they knew why not to  “baby question” either and know what was actually going on.

 

My biggest support came after I joined a “Jumpstart” program through PCOS Divas (check the website out for more info on that program) because after you complete the classes you get invited into a closed Facebook group just for the women who have PCOS and have gone through the jumpstart program. This is such a great support because we all know the different roller coaster of emotions we go through and the difficulties with other symptoms such as having a harder time to loose weight, managing sugars etc. You just need people around you sometimes that speak the same language and you may not have to say much but they know exactly what your feeling. The women there have encouraged me on my worst days and I appreciate them, many of whom I don’t know personally , yet we are still a support system for each other.

Those that know me know that I always contribute my faith in Christ to helping me and guiding me which is VERY true but I am so glad when he sends great people that are here in the flesh to surround you and support you through the valleys as well.

While going through this season, Jason and I had been praying about how God would want us to parent and we continued to grow this desire to adopt. When we got married we always said we wanted biological children and children that we would adopt. God had other plans (doesn’t he always 🙂 in his timing and designing of things but we became okay with that .

So our desire turned into our destiny when it came to parenting. We were called to love those that don’t have anyone to call mom and dad.

We desired. God confirmed it and That was all we needed to move forward.

In the previous post I gave a little fast forward to where things are now but of course there was a lot of meat to chew on and a lot of other battles to overcome.

Jason and I waited to tell our parents about the whole PCOS thing until we came to full terms and comfortability about it ourselves  to handle whatever feelings and comments may come our way.

We told them all in our own way but it was hard because of course we know they desired to be grandparents at some point and we wanted that too but these are the cards we were dealt with so once again if God wanted us to carry a child at some point we knew it would happen. They all had different responses. Nothing harsh, just different ways of reacting and looking at the situation.

We didn’t feel the need to send a flag flying to all of our family members house saying “hey guess what?” like, there was just no need. We  knew they would know eventually but the only people we felt needed a “formal” phone call on the matter was our parents.

(We would encourage couples to do what you feel is best in a situation like this. Only you and your spouse know whats best for you two but always make sure that you two are on the same page when it comes to telling personal situations like this to others even if it is your parents/family members. okay I’m off my soap box)

So after going through that we then had to deal with people coming up to us saying “When are the babies coming?” “Are you pregnant yet?” ” I can’t wait for you to have kids!” There was one lady in the mall that every time I would walk in the store it would be “are you pregnant yet? I’m going to ask you every time I see you until I see that belly”.

Ughhh ! It was enough to make you sick to your stomach.  We had encountered  those questions in the past but where before it was mere annoyance to give those comments any attention because we were focused on us rather than a baby, became heartbreaking because now this is the time that we actually wanted to be pregnant. I couldn’t be mad at other people because they ultimately didn’t know what was going on but I did vow to myself that I would NEVER ask a women a bunch of times “so when are the babies coming?” because they could be just like me…wondering the same thing..when are the babies coming?

The topic is more sensitive when your going through it. I can only imagine how stars like Khloe Kardashian or others in the lime light persay handle it when people always assume that well ….your a woman so just pop the babies out whenever you feel, when it can be harder to get pregnant than what many know. The crazy thing about PCOS too is that you could get pregnant with a baby and then try for your second one and have a hard time getting pregnant and wonder whats going on. A lot of women don’t know they have PCOS or the fact that many times it can be genetic. Crazy right?

This season just caused for more prayer and more community.